Couples Relationship Advice
Keeping a happy and sound relationship needs a lot of work. A relationship looks like a plant and both parties act as the gardeners. To ensure this plant will bear fruits or flowers in the end, both the gardeners need to regularly water the plant, include fertilizer and pull out the weeds. The same applies to a relationship in which couples have to invest their time, effort to strengthen the emotional connection as a base to develop a close intimate bond.
A relationship between two individuals can be a wonderful thing. However, there is always room for improvement. Many individuals seek out advice on relationships to find ways to keep their relationship alive, or to recreate that spark that has somewhat faltered.
There are various approaches one can take to enhancing his or her relationship. However, sometimes it is hard to devise those strategies on your own. Never fear, there is a lot of relationship advice out there to be heard. That being said, don’t think that all advice is ‘good advice’ – advice is very personal and subjective; what works for some folks do not necessarily work for others. The key factor to consider in taking advice is to be guided by what experience others have had from the person giving the advice.
Keeping intimate relationship alive requires strength, motivation, and something many refer to as love. People are guilty of basing their romantic beliefs on fairy-tales.
If you are willing to put forth the effort to keep your relationship alive, then developing the following habits will help you get to be one of those highly successful couples.
GIVE EACH OTHER PLEASURE
Nonetheless… for just a single day, try to become consciously aware of everything you do, by asking yourself the question, “Is what I’m about to do or say going to cause my partner pain or pleasure?”
To help you, each of you ought to make two lists: one for every things your partner did that hurt you, and the other for all that you’d like your partner to do to give you pleasure.
Swap lists, and now you know precisely what to do and what not to do. No more speculating!
CREATE LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP RITUALS
We usually fall in love through rituals of connection and intimacy such as romantic dinners, riding bicycles or going for walks, long conversations, exchanging gifts, talking every night.
When we fall in love our relationship turns to the center point of our life, without anything becoming secondary. After some time, when the relationship turns out to be more settled (especially after we have children), this process reverses. The children, our work, our hobbies, our friends – take the center stage and the relationship being consigned to the background tending only to receive our attention in times of crisis.
The solution to routine (the primary cause of dull relationships) is connection and intimacy rituals.
For instance, every Saturday evening, as a changeover from the working week into the weekend, take two hours together when you put a “do not disturb” sign on your busy life. No phones, no answered doors, no e-mails, no TV, nothing just the both of you. Do what you will with the time; nonetheless it must be an investment in your relationship.
CREATE A SAFE SPACE FOR OPEN AND HONEST SHARING
Create a sense of safety and acceptance that permits you both to express your feelings, expectations, disappointments and problems.
CREATE MEANING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Think about it, other than having fun, what else would you like to do together in the coming years?
We all need meaning in our lives. You will improve your relationship by sharing meaningful experiences with each other. The ultimate meaning is to share a common philosophy of life and life purpose. This is why couples who choose a path of personal-growth or spirituality together, have extraordinarily great source of meaning in their lives.
Think of your relationship as a journey–a journey that will involve highs and lows, success and disappointment, discovery and rediscovery. Along this journey, the successful couples hold onto the reasons they fell in love in the first place and they find new reasons to deepen their existing love.